Anger- it’s how you stay safe and handle everything this big world brings. You’d be dead without it! Anger is a form of personal power, it’s the fire in the belly that burns food into movement and gets things done. Anger isn’t good or bad, it’s how you use it. History, including yours, is an education in the use of anger/power, which we experience in 3 forms: weakness, force, and flow.
Weakness: Repressed Anger
You first learn about anger through its absence. Believing you have no power, you are taken advantage of and unable to take care of yourself. Without the energy of anger you’ll feel weak, incapable, helpless, victimized, and hopeless. But this lifeforce is always present. When repressed it emerges as resentment, passive aggression, and self-defeating behavior.
Safely access anger-power by strengthening your navel center with yoga, martial arts, exercise. Befriend it in therapy and meditation. Use it to express needs, make requests, and set healthy boundaries. Power and protection lie in using your voice, making choices, and taking action.
Force: Expressed Anger
From the first “No!” in the “terrible two’s” to the cruelty of tyrants, the discovery of Force is followed by the learning process of its use and abuse. Expressed as rage and violence, it damages and destroys. But harnessed as determination and drive it motivates effective action and accomplishment. By trial and error we learn that anger channeled into empowerment brings protection and peace. Learn to process it consciously by understanding what is bothering you, what you need, then taking action to handle it.
Flow: Higher Power
Conscious use of power brings high levels of wellbeing, contentment, and generosity to serve others. Gratitude and humility follow, leading to the experience that power is not yours, but moves through you. Allowing the universe to take care of things brings access to the power that moves the galaxies. It cannot be gained by force, but is awakened by acceptance and trust in life’s flow.
What have you learned about anger/power in your life’s study? Using it ever more skillfully brings the ability to thrive within life’s challenges, and the ability to fulfill your purpose. That freedom is the magnificent gift of Anger. Use it wisely!
Do it Now! – Meditation for Eliminating Deep Inner Anger
Recommended reading: Power vs. Force by David R. Hawkins