Self-Love and Compassion
The Gift of Shame: Self-Love.
Where are you on that epic passage from worthless to priceless?
Whenever you are out of integrity; whenever your thoughts, feelings, and behavior don’t properly represent and elevate you; whenever your inherent purity is not recognized, respected, and acted upon; whenever you need to improve your ability to love and honor who you are—at all of these times, Shame will be there to poke and provoke you back to your true home in the Self. Stand strong and tall in purity and worthiness.
Don’t be surprised if Self-Love is not available immediately or abundantly at first. When your self-criticism and overt harshness soften with a bit of acceptance, you can open the heart a bit further with compassion. For me, the job was too big to take on all at once. I had to start with a smaller step, and that was simply being kind. Just diminishing the suffering causing habits and offering myself other acts of kindness “as if” I were worthy helped me feel more deserving. I tried to be a better friend to myself, to speak more supportively, and then to actively appreciate that nurturing. I can tell you first hand that when you don’t feel worthy of love and can’t offer and accept your own love, you will not feel much of it from anyone else. They may be right there loving you, but you will be blind to it; you may even leave them, believing they didn’t love you.
Every relationship is a reflection of that all important relationship with yourself. So if you are in the Lonely Hearts Club, it’s not about who you are or about who wants you or doesn’t; it’s all about you. So, start with you. If you are one of the many who gives and gives to others, wondering why you never get enough in return, just remember that you can’t buy love! It’s abundant and free; you have but to dip into it, give it, and receive it—but to yourself first!